Blue Ivy Carter Stage Debut and Building Resilience
When Blue Ivy Carter had her first performance on stage during her mom Beyoncé’s Renaissance World Tour in May, it stirred up some trouble.
In the documentary “Renaissance: A Film by Beyoncé,” released last Friday, 11-year-old Carter mentioned the negativity she faced: “People said lots of not-so-nice things.” Despite receiving cheers in Paris for her dance moves to “My Power” and “Black Parade,” social media wasn’t as kind.
I can’t wait in 5-10 years to say to say that I was an HONORARY blue Ivy carter fan😭🪩💙🦋 pic.twitter.com/OrX6DiGTMN
— Theadis Durden (@DurdenTheadis) December 1, 2023
Criticism like that could’ve made her avoid going on stage again. Initially, joining her mom’s tour was a one-time thing—a reward for her dedication to dancing and building a good work ethic, as Beyoncé explained.
However, instead of being discouraged, Carter felt determined to prove her critics wrong. She shared, “My mindset has changed now. I have to wake up, attend rehearsals, and put in more effort.”
essa senhora platinada esperando pra tirar foto com a lendária Blue ivy Carter, a lenda é tão acessível veypic.twitter.com/iwNJj5sBue
— Bia 🪩 (@beasaintx_) November 30, 2023
The documentary swiftly moved to the tour’s final show in Kansas City, Missouri, where Carter confidently rejoined Beyoncé on stage. This time, she seemed more at ease. Together, the mother-daughter duo performed at over 15 shows during a five-month span.
This turnaround showcased resilience, catching the attention of Carter’s mom. In the documentary, Beyoncé expressed, “I feel so honored to be on stage with you. It’s incredible, sometimes there are 70,000 people out there. You handle it, thrive, and I am so proud of you.”
Nurturing Resilience in Children
While most kids don’t face the pressure of performing in front of thousands, they can relate to the challenges of stepping out of their comfort zones.
Child psychologist Francyne Zeltser suggests a different approach to praise. Instead of focusing on the end result, acknowledge the effort and process it took for your child to complete a task. According to Zeltser, praising the outcome can hinder the development of resilience, confidence, and a willingness to learn.
Zeltser also advises parents to help their children embrace failure and imperfections as opportunities for growth. Encouraging them to recognize, accept, and overcome their ‘weaknesses’ is essential. Remind them that they possess the tools and support needed for personal growth.
“Children who value learning and effort know how to make and sustain a commitment to their goals,” Zeltser adds.